I guess I will start with a confession, I’m an anxious perfectionist. I want holidays to be perfect for my children so they will have incredible memories guiding them into adulthood. The pressure this standard I have set for myself is overwhelming and more-so as we wrap the end of an unfortunate year.
2020 has been something insane, right?! Let’s not get obsessed with making this holiday season perfect, instead, let’s enjoy it for what is…and how it will conclude the dumpster fire known as 2020.
10 Tips to Help You Minimize Holiday Overwhelm
Reflect on Previous Holidays
What did you love most about previous holidays? What did you like least? If you can figure out what you enjoyed most and find ways to modify things that overwhelmed you in the past it may provide you with more enjoyment.
Get Organized with Gift Giving
Who do you have to buy presents for? Who have you yet to shop for? I previously wrote an article entitled 5 Ways to Give a More Thoughtful Gift. Maybe, just maybe, it will help you figure out your last few gifts that you need to buy.
Budget for the Holidays
I can’t tell you that budgeting is fun, but it is something that is incredibly necessary to make it through the holiday season without utilizing credit cards throughout the year.
Talk to your family. Ask them what they love about the holidays. Activities they love to do, etc. You might just be surprised to hear what they have to say. Their version of the perfect Christmas season may not include all the chaos you feel obligated to schedule.
Get Your Body Moving
I can’t help but think of the movie Legally Blonde when I talk about working out to reduce stress. Is anyone with me on that?
“Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands; they just don’t.”
So, keep everyone alive this holiday season by taking the time to workout to gain endorphins.
Learn to Say No
I won’t lie, this was supposed to be my theme this year…and we all know how that turned out. However, you don’t have to do everything that people ask you to. You don’t! It’s that simple. I want to encourage you to be selfish and to think about how precious your time is. Saying no is part of that process.
Take Time to Give Back
Giving back doesn’t have to mean spending all your time and money helping others. But choosing to warm others’ hearts and your own this holiday season can be good for everyone.
One thing I don’t usually do on this blog is to promote items for you to buy. However, this is one of our family’s favorite ways to remind us to give back over the holiday season. It’s called the Giving Manger. For every good deed you do for others, a piece of straw is put under baby Jesus. The goal is to get all the straw under Jesus before Christmas. My kids love it and consistently strive to serve others and tell me all about it as they put a piece of straw in the manger.
Happify says, “People who regularly practice gratitude by taking time to notice and reflect upon the things they’re thankful for experience more positive emotions, feel more alive, sleep better, express more compassion and kindness, and even have stronger immune systems.”
The other morning I found myself in panic mode. The kids were chaos, and couldn’t care that they were supposed to be getting ready for the day. I had a busy day in front of me in the office and a chore list that seemed never-ending. Before the panic set in, I spent a few minutes watching them laughing and playing with each other. The gratitude and thankfulness for this life set in…and everything was okay.
You are capable of changing your thoughts about situations as well. When life feels overwhelming, stop and be thankful for what you have. I assure you that your thoughts will change in the process.
Work in Alone Time
Take time for yourself. In times of chaos, self-care is typically the first thing to go. If you have been with me awhile, you know that minimalism taught me how important it was to take care of myself…and I can’t stress that enough to you.
No matter how much you want to prevent holiday overwhelm, you will still have moments of it. When those moments happen, take a deep breath and reset yourself.
I have attempted to write this blog what feels like a hundred times over the past month, yet here we are in the middle of December and it’s just now finished. I tell you this because I am giving myself grace this holiday season…and I hope you give yourself grace as well. You deserve it.